It’s interesting how when faced with some tough and intimate questions, we tend to remind the person you’re asking to be honest. And sometimes, the honest answer is what you already know but you avoid hearing it from your own voice, so you want someone else to say it out for you.
Honesty to me is the highest form of intimacy between human beings and a precious moral character. Not everyone knows how to be honest because to have that firm straightforwardness in your opinions, you’ll have to first, have an opinion, second, understand it. Some are also afraid to be honest because they feel that they may hurt the other with the truth. To receive honest opinions, you have to be vulnerable and open minded and also have that mutual trust that the opinions are not with ill intentions.
I wonder a lot about human dynamics and how people view life and love. What‘s the thought process behind each individual’s decisions and actions. How is your idea of life and love different from mine? Why do we hurt from something so beautiful?
I think because of this, I sometimes allow myself to experience these emotions almost to the extreme. Not because I’m emotional, but because it feels real. It is honest and I have a deep desire to connect with that. There are lessons from all this and you understand yourself a little more each time.
I think pain is hard to talk about. It is easy to not think about the bad, lie about it and shove it aside until you have no choice but to face it. But pain is a kind of emotion that is as real as it gets. It comes from betrayal, disappointment, unkindness, violence and the different forms of pain could make you start questioning your self worth and stop you from believing that you deserve better.
However, when you emerge from pain, it moulds you. Let it mould you into a wiser, better person who is fearless. Because the bad things that happen now are for the better things to come.
I wish for the world to live for truths. Strip away superficiality, ego and pride. Be a simple man, be someone you love and understand. When you are able to be honest with who you are, and who you’re with, life gets real and that connection can never be broken.
If the truth is buried, reality is a lie.